Rating: 3 Stars
This memoir follows Moore from her young adult years all the way past her divorce from Ashton Kutcher. It speaks of her first acting and modelling gigs, her home life and the mother she felt did not love her as much, or in a way that she needed. It details her first few marriages, as well as her drug addiction. It recounts the beginning and eventual end of her relationship to Bruce Willis and Ashton Kutcher. It has been praised as a “very real and honest look into her life.”
I will say that the writing was actually pretty good which was a pleasant surprise. However, I feel like (especially after seeing some interviews she’s done with media outlets) the word “brave” and “incredibly honest” were words that were a little bigger than what actually panned out on paper. I’ll agree to the brave comment because I think putting any part of your life on paper and not spinning it in a way that makes you look blameless is truly brave. To say “I messed up, and this is a book that touches on some of my mess ups,” is vulnerable. And in the vulnerability there is bravery.
I do, however, think that when it came to the point in her life where she needed to write about what happened between her and her children and the year or so they spent refusing to speak with her, she glossed over that pretty quick, which tells me this book contains only small snippets of what actually happened. And that’s okay. It truly is. Just because you’re writing a memoir doesn’t mean you necessarily get to air out everyone’s dirty laundry in the process. So if there were things that happened that were glossed over or simply not mentioned to protect her children and their privacy, I’m okay with that and I understand that.
However. I do feel like that took away some of that “incredibly honest” review because it wasn’t. Pieces were left out and it felt like that was done on purpose. 75% of this book was about her earlier years, relationships, and marriages. 25% was about her relationships with Willis and Kutcher. Obviously I think a lot of people probably picked this memoir up to read her whole life story, but what peaked everyones interest and what made people want to read it was to know more about her later life, and I’m sure she and her publishing team knew that. And they also knew there wouldn’t be a plethora of detail regarding those two points in her life.
And my opinion of this is simply that it’s her life and her choice to pick and choose which parts she wanted to share. But at the same time, if you’re calling it a memoir I do feel like glossing over huge parts and pieces of your life isn’t “incredibly honest.”
But again, it’s her choice to decide what she wants to share with the public, so I respect that. I think my issue is just that media outlets were really pushing the honesty in it and to read the entire thing and feel like there were pieces missing was just not what was expected.
I do have to give her credit where credit is due, so I will say that there was certainly a lot of honesty when it came to her earlier years, especially regarding substance abuse and eating disorders. That takes guts to put out into the world.
Overall, it was interesting. I’ll be honest, I really didn’t know much about her before I picked this book up and I didn’t know nearly any of the movies she’d been in, so it was interesting to get to know someone so famous but who, for one reason or another, I didn’t really know anything about.